Friday, 23 March 2018

Dating In Your 30s

As you probably guess by the title of this post, I'm in my 30s, and if you have followed my blog for awhile, then you would know that I'm also single; which once again explains the title of the post. Plus, if you have been reading my blog for the past few months, then you would know I've been interested in trying out online dating.

At one point in time, I thought online dating was more or less of a sign of desperation, but that's no longer my attitude towards the subject. I know several people who have found their 'perfect' match on dating sites, which gives me a bit of hope that I can find my own soulmate, if such a woman even exists for me.

I've visited enough dating sites to know that many of them are geared toward the twenty-something crowd, who are mostly likely looking for a short-term or hookup relationships. Obviously, I'm no longer in that age bracket and I'm not looking for a fling. While I have nothing against dating a younger woman, I don't believe I would have anything in common with her.

Besides from niche dating websites (I'll get to that later!), my only option is websites aimed for older singles, such as However, there's a slight problems with these sites, as the majority of them are aimed at the 50+ club, which is way out of my age range. While I have nothing against dating an older woman, I would like to have children one day, so finding someone closer to my age would be more suitable for my life goals.

There aren't too many dating sites that are exclusively for singles in their 30s, so I would probably have better luck finding someone on a 'free' dating website, such as Plenty of Fish or OkCupid, or on the popular dating app Zoosk. However, I've tried these websites in the past with absolutely no luck. The women on there are either looking for hookup or a sugar daddy. I had a profile on Plenty of Fish a few years ago, back when it was 100% free, and I kept receiving messages from women with one question, - “How much money do you make?” Having that question for a first message/contact is a major red flag for me.

Nevertheless, despite my previous setbacks with online dating, I'm still intrigued by the concept, and I do hope of finding my perfect mate.

For me dating in your 30s has many cons and pros.

Some personal pros for me are:
  • I'm more mature in my 30s compared to when I was in my 20s.
  • I no longer judge women on their looks.
  • I'm looking for an emotional connection more than physical attraction.

A few cons I can up with are:
  • The percentage of finding a thirty-something single woman in my area is very low.
  • Some women in their 30s don't want to have children
  • Many women in their 30s already have children from a previous marriage or relationship. (Note: I like kids, but I have mixed feelings about raising a child that I'm not the biological father of.)

Honestly, niche dating sites would probably be my best course of action. My interests tend to include many geeky things, so joining a geeky-themed dating website might me the right way for me to go. There are dating sites for comic book readers, book lovers, trekkies (Star Trek fans), Star Wars fans, Harry Potter fans, etc..

My geeky interests includes anything Star Wars related, Marvel Comics, DC Comics, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Garfield, Doctor Who (There's a dating site for this one!), Transformers, and Funko Pop! figurines. I also like horror related franchise, such as Halloween (a.k.a – Michael Myers), The Walking Dead, Evil Dead, Friday the 13th (a.k.a. – Jason Voorhees), Hellraiser (a.k.a .– Pinhead) and A Nightmare on Elm Street (a.k.a. – Freddy Krueger). I'm also a book lover, which means I read a lot and I collect books. (There's a dating website for book lovers, too!) Plus, I'm also a MLB baseball fan, which I'm almost sure there's several sports-related dating sites out there.

I apologize if I've rambled on a bit too much in this post. I've been a bit lonely lately and I thought sharing my thoughts in this post would help my emotions, which I believe it has helped to some degree.

If you liked this post, please comment below in the comment section. I would love to know if anyone esle has had any success at online dating.

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